Episode #178 - OK, But Why Would I do THIS to Myself?

Last week, we explored why we experience difficult emotions at all. This week, we're continuing the conversation by looking at three emotions Sixes often spend a tremendous amount of energy trying to avoid: disappointment, fear, and anxiety. 

What if disappointment isn't something to protect yourself from?

What if fear isn't the enemy?

And what if anxiety isn't actually solving the problem your brain thinks it's solving?

In this episode, we explore how our emotional lives shape so many of the behaviors Sixes know well—lowering expectations, planning for every possibility, overthinking, pessimism, and trying to stay ahead of pain before it ever arrives.

The goal isn't to stop having these emotions.

The goal is to become safe enough inside yourself that you no longer have to organize your life around avoiding them.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why disappointment reveals what you genuinely care about
  • How lowering expectations can quietly shrink your life
  • The difference between fear and anxiety
  • Why anxiety loops keep us from deeper emotions
  • How learning to tolerate difficult feelings builds self-trust
  • Why you don't have to outrun your emotions to live an uninhibited life

A question to take with you:

What feeling am I actually trying to avoid?

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