Episode #181 - Anxiety, Guilt, and Shame. Oh my!
What happens inside you after you make a mistake?
For Sixes, it can get complicated fast.
There may be healthy guilt—the ugh, I wish I hadn't done that feeling that lets us know we've acted outside of our values.
But then anxiety can jump in.
What are they going to think? Are they mad? Did I ruin something?
And if we're not careful, shame isn't far behind.
What kind of person does that? Maybe I'm irresponsible. Maybe I'm unprofessional. Maybe there's something wrong with me.
In this episode, I use a very real—and thankfully pretty low-stakes—mistake of my own to explore what guilt, anxiety, and shame actually feel like from the inside.
We talk about:
- Why healthy guilt can actually be useful
- How anxiety fills uncertainty with worst-case stories
- The difference between "I made a mistake" and "I am the kind of person who makes these mistakes"
- Why Sixes can over-apologize, defend, blame, or seek reassurance when anxiety and shame take over
- How to own what's yours without taking on more than what's yours
- Why practicing with the small stuff can help you understand your internal patterns
- How curiosity creates space between your automatic reaction and what you choose to do next
Your first reaction may be automatic.
What you do with that reaction doesn't have to be.
A question to take with you:
Am I owning a mistake—or am I making the mistake mean something about who I am?
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